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Girlfriend Grief

By Mark Ewert

My girlfriend is a chronic crier. She's always feeling bad about something that's happening to her and she's always weeping about it. It's not like she cries that much about us, but still, her constant tears are really getting me down. Is she just always going to be sad? What should I do?
Signed, A wet blanket's love-slave

Dear Wet,
I never do readings for third parties. So, if I'm pulling cards for you, I'm pulling cards for you, not for Weepy. The obvious answer would be "Go to couples counseling," but Temperance (Synthesis; finding the happy medium) seems to be hinting at a more subtle technique. I'm not saying this is ultimate reality or anything, but toy around with the idea that you might be vicariously living out your own sadness via your g.f. I'm guessing you have a grief that you haven't allowed yourself to feel, and so being around Boo-hoo is the next best thing. Work toward emotional balance for yourself, then see if that doesn't have a positive effect on the relationship. Don't fixate on homegirl, return some of your attention back to yourself .

Mr. Ewert can be reached for professional card readings at 415.252.9321

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