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Bizarre Love Triangle

By Mark Ewert

I'm 32 years old. My father and I used to have a horrible relationship, but now--after me giving him a few ultimatums--we genuinely get along well. My problem is he still treats my mother--whom I adore--with this really nasty passive-aggressive contempt. What should I do? Stay out of it? Tell him off?
Georgia Greer, San Francisco

The Three of Cups (joyous times with others; emotional openness).

Hmmmmm, this is a tough one. On the most literal level the card seems to suggest that the best way you can help your parents' relationship is to sponsor good times for all three of you; you model to them what it's like to enjoy each other's company, and hope that the feeling rubs off on your Dad.

On a more subtle level, I'd say that you, as the apex of this triangle, could try to be more emotionally honest with BOTH your parents. Tell Mom how it makes you feel when you see her treated badly; tell Dad how angry it makes you when he's acting like a creep. But use a light touch! This card is ultimately about happiness, so don't come barreling in reading off manifestos.

Good luck.

Mr. Ewert can be reached for professional card readings at 415.252.9321

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