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Distinguished Gentleman's Ride Saves Lives, Zooms into San Jose

The Distinguished Gentleman's Ride pairs classic bikes with a clean-cut look, but for a cause Read More


The World According to Derf

One of the nation's most infamous serial killers, Jeffrey Dahmer was just one more kid that nobody noticed. A bullied misfit in a small, rural Ohio town in the mid-1970s, he dissected roadkill in secret, skinning it to get to the bones. He drank heavily, showing up stinking of booze at school, trying to drown his unspeakable urges. In his own numb, dead-faced way, Dahmer was always willing to participate in pranks. He got a kick out of pretending to be a spastic-lapsing into fits, cawing, bleating and brandishing a twisted-up arm, pranking the squares at the local mall or livening up the school cafeteria. A fellow student who helped put him up to the tricks was one John Backderf. » Read More

Distinguished Gentleman's Ride Saves Lives, Zooms into San Jose

For the first time in San Jose, more than 100 men will wear their finest tailored suits while riding classic or vintage-styled motorcycles for charity. Call it Triumph meets Tweed, or Mad Men on Motorbikes, if you will, but the Distinguished Gentleman's Ride, as it has come to be known, now unfolds in 600-plus cities throughout the world. Thousands of dudded-up and dapper dudes take to the streets to raise money for prostate cancer and men's mental health, with people from Melbourne to Serbia, from Vietnam to Wales, from Peru and Morocco to India and the Philippines all contributing. If you don't ride a motorcycle but still harbor a passion for the cause, sponsor a rider or make an anonymous donation. » Read More

Advice Goddess: How to Dismiss Creepy Guys at the Gym

Women have a tendency to be hinty and otherwise indirect in telling a guy they aren't interested. As personal security expert Gavin de Becker puts it in "The Gift of Fear": "Rejecting women often say less than they mean," and "men often hear less than what is said." Men's poor, um, hearing actually seems to be an evolutionary design feature. Research by evolutionary psychologists Martie Haselton and David Buss suggests that men evolved to be poor guessers about women's sexual interest in them--erring on the side of assuming a woman's interested when they have no definitive sign that she isn't (as in adult variations on "off my case, toilet face!"). » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of September 20, 2017

Psychologists say most people need a scapegoat--a personification of wickedness and ignorance onto which they can project the unacknowledged darkness in their own hearts. That's the bad news. Here's the good news: The coming weeks will be an excellent time for you to neutralize that reflex and at least partially divest yourself of the need for scapegoats. How? The first thing to do is identify your own darkness with courageous clarity. Get to know it better. Converse with it. Negotiate with it. The more conscientiously you deal with that shadowy stuff within you, the less likely you'll be to demonize other people. » Read More

The Quest to Be the First to Scale Mount Umunhum

Shortly after finishing the first mile of my hike up Mount Umunhum, I look up at the large, mysterious rectangular structure at the top for the 20th time. It feels just as far away as it did at the beginning of the trail, effectively deflating any sense of progress I'd made. If you've spent as much time hiking trails in the backcountry as I have, you've experienced a "false peak," meaning you spot what you think is the top of the mountain, only to learn after much exhaustive hiking that the spot you had your gaze locked in on was only partway up. Mount Umunhum is the exact opposite: there's never any doubt about where the summit is. It's constantly reminding you-taunting you, one might say. I won't spend too much time complaining about how » Read More

Viva CalleSJ: San Jose's Annual Street Activation Returns

With its third incarnation this year, Viva CalleSJ, an adventurous open streets initiative, will add more length of road and a wider smorgasbord of activities along the route. For 2017, the gig is titled, Downtown and Eastbound: El Corazon, and it will close off streets from Japantown to the East Side, and on to Lake Cunningham. Inspired by similar open streets initiatives throughout North America and the world, Viva CalleSJ is a temporary autonomous zone created by closing several miles of San Jose streets and shutting them off to cars for a day. People from anywhere can walk, bike, skate, play and explore the city in ways they don't normally get to do. Its not a race. » Read More

Advice Goddess: My Boyfriend Only Acts Lovey-Dovey When He's Drunk

However, the skeptic in you might ask: If personality doesn't change after, say, three Sriracha margaritas, how come we've all seen people behaving differently when they're sauced? Well, according to research by social psychologists Claude M. Steele and Robert A. Josephs, the behavioral changes of drunken excess appear to be caused not by alcohol itself but by alcohol-driven changes in perception that they call "alcohol myopia." Alcohol appears to restrict attention, giving a person a sort of tunnel vision for whatever's right in front of them. » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of September 13, 2017

James Loewen wrote a book called Lies My Teacher Told Me: Everything Your American History Textbook Got Wrong. He said, for instance, that during the Europeans' invasion and conquest of the continent, it wasn't true that Native Americans scalped white settlers. In fact, it was mostly the other way around: whites scalped Indians. Here's another example: The famous blind and deaf person, Helen Keller, was not a sentimental spokesperson for sweetness and light, but rather a radical feminist and socialist who advocated revolution. I invite you to apply Loewen's investigative approach to your personal past, Gemini. The coming weeks will be an excellent time to uncover hidden, incomplete, and distorted versions of your history, and correct them. » Read More

'Coasts in Crisis' Exposes Fragile State of the Earth's Shorelines

There are three main areas where the planet's ice is stored, and it is primarily the melting of that ice that is raising sea level, along with a warming ocean, leading to thermal expansion of water. The mountain glaciers, or those in Alaska, the Andes, Alps, Patagonia and Himalayas, where we most often see the photographs of retreat and melting, actually are quite small in volume. If they were all to melt, which they are gradually doing, they would produce a total global sea-level rise of a little less than two feet. That's not trivial if you live within two feet of high tide. » Read More

Japantown Art Walk to Help Spotlight New Book on Valley's Art History

When it comes to the interconnected histories of arts activism and community building in Silicon Valley, Jan Rindfleisch is at least one Kevin Bacon degree of separation from every heroic troublemaker for the last 40 years. No way could she attempt to document everything and everyone, but her new book, Roots & Offshoots: Silicon Valley's Arts Community, goes the distance and draws important parallels from the Ohlone tribes and the San Jose Art League of 1938, straight up to the current day, focusing on a laundry list of individuals, institutions and movements, all of which continue to resonate. This Friday evening, Rindfleisch will sign copies of the book at Roy's Station in Japantown, San Jose's best Buddhist reincarnation of a gas » Read More

Advice Goddess: Why Do We Want What We Can't Have?

In looking for love, a number of people confuse "the chase" with something closer to criminal stalking. In their defense, these ideas don't come out of nowhere. For example, consider how creepy the Cupid dude with the little bow and arrow actually is. Basically, he's easy to get or, worse, what's chasing madly after them. It's about value. Being easy to get or seeming desperate suggests one has what anthropologists call "low mate value." Social psychologist Robert Cialdini explains this with "the scarcity principle," which describes how the less available something is the more valuable it seems and the more we want it. Being scarce doesn't necessarily equate to being more valuable; however, because of how psychologically painful we find » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of September 6, 2017

James Loewen wrote a book called Lies My Teacher Told Me: Everything Your American History Textbook Got Wrong. He said, for instance, that during the Europeans' invasion and conquest of the continent, it wasn't true that Native Americans scalped white settlers. In fact, it was mostly the other way around: whites scalped Indians. Here's another example: The famous blind and deaf person, Helen Keller, was not a sentimental spokesperson for sweetness and light, but rather a radical feminist and socialist who advocated revolution. I invite you to apply Loewen's investigative approach to your personal past, Gemini. The coming weeks will be an excellent time to uncover hidden, incomplete, and distorted versions of your history, and correct them. » Read More

Peanuts Cafe Creates San Jose Legacy by Keeping It Simple

About 10 years ago I was lurking inside the legendary Peanuts Cafe on San Fernando Street, when an old-timer said to me: "If this place goes away, I'll blow up the new City Hall." He was exaggerating, but I understood his sentiment. Thankfully, as far as I can tell, Peanuts is not going away anytime soon, and with the new academic year upon us, now is an opportune moment to celebrate the gorgeous downmarket establishment that San Jose State University (SJSU) students have frequented for eons. You cannot call yourself a Spartan if you haven't been to Peanuts. The place soaks in its affordability. That's the point. It is not a joint for Michelin-starred chefs or a plate of chateaubriand. You go for the decades-old decor, the beer and the » Read More

Advice Goddess: My Spouse Got Fat, Now What?

If your husband's starting to see definition in his legs, it shouldn't be from rolling over and falling asleep on the remote. As for how to get him back into workout mode, consider what psychologists Edward Deci and Richard M. Ryan have learned in studying motivation. They break it down into two categories-intrinsic and extrinsic, fancy terms for internal and external. The extrinsic kind is outside pressure to do something, like nagging from the wife to start going to the gym instead of just driving by the place and waving. Extrinsic pressure tends to motivate defiance rather than compliance, which is to say it's remarkably effective at bringing out the "terrible twos" in a 46-year-old man. » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of August 30, 2017

Close your eyes and imagine this: You and a beloved ally get lost in an enchanted forest, discover a mysterious treasure, and find your way back to civilization just before dark. Now visualize this: You give a dear companion a photo of your face taken on every one of your birthdays, and the two of you spend hours talking about your evolution. Picture this: You and an exciting accomplice luxuriate in a sun-lit sanctuary surrounded by gourmet snacks as you listen to ecstatic music and bestow compliments on each other. These are examples of the kinds of experiments I invite you to try in the coming weeks. Dream up some more! Here's a keynote to inspire you: sacred fun. » Read More

Fall Arts: Return of the Hammer

Chris Burril squints into the midday sun as he surveys downtown San Jose from the fourth-floor terrace of the Hammer Theatre Center. In the distance-to the northwest, not far beyond the iconic Renaissance Revival tower of the Bank of Italy Building-he points to three massive cranes rising above the city. All three, he notes, are part of new residential projects. Though some in the arts community view luxury apartments and condos as a harbinger of gentrification and a threat to the creative class, Burrill—who was brought on as executive managing director of the Hammer after San Jose State University (SJSU) took over management of the building in 2016-sees the future residents as prospective patrons. » Read More

ShakesBEERience Returns: 'As You Like It'

The production can be described numerous ways, but in my view it's a site-specific event that takes over Cafe Stritch for one night. A Shakespeare play is performed, but the entire venue becomes a stage as participants act out the script and play roles while moving around various parts of the club. Even the staff might jump in for a moment or two. No one knows what to expect, with beer being the only predictable ingredient. This is not a stuffy upmarket affair. The lights don't go down and no one hands out cough suppressants ahead of time. Instead, the audience experiences a free-form, improvised, casual reading. » Read More

Advice Goddess: My Husband Won't Leave His Man Cave

A stressed-out woman wants to talk about her feelings; a stressed-out man wants to gun down 87 slobbering zombies on his phone in hopes that his feelings get bored with him and go away. It turns out that in dealing with emotional stress, men and women have some different neurochemical overlords. If men's had a name, it would be The Earl of Overkill, which is to say men tend to react neurochemically to social stress as they would to being chased through the woods by a maniac with a crossbow. First, there's a surge of epinephrine and norepinephrine, neuromessengers (aka neurotransmitters) that are the bandleaders of the brain's "fight or flight" reaction. » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of August 23, 2017

Stockbrokers in Pakistan grew desperate when the Karachi Stock Exchange went into a tailspin. In an effort to reverse the negative trend, they performed a ritual sacrifice of 10 goats in a parking lot. But their "magic" failed. Stocks continued to fade. Much later they recovered, but not in a timely manner that would suggest the sacrifice worked. I urge you to avoid their approach to fixing problems, especially now. Reliance on superstition and wishful thinking is guaranteed to keep you stuck. On the other hand, I'm happy to inform you that the coming weeks will be a highly favorable time to use disciplined research and rigorous logic to solve dilemmas. » Read More

San Jose Jazz Summer Fest Proves it's Ready to Take Next Step

One plan for this past weekend involved setting priorities, defining goals and establishing a regimented schedule. Another involved a more nomadic approach, wandering through the masses with only abstract goals in mind. Or, there was Plan C, reserved for those who refuse to identify on a binary of nomadic-sedentary: navigating a tightrope between both options. At its best, the festival showed the possibilities of interconnected cosmopolitan worldliness. The variety of folks ranged from jazzed-out AARP-level veterans to texting millennial hipsters. Decades-long experts traded tips with festival first-timers. At any moment one could choose from 88-year-old Jimmy Cobb playing straight-ahead jazz, Czech kids playing Dixieland or Taimane » Read More

Advice Goddess: My Girlfriend Accepted a Gift from Her Ex

A guy my girlfriend dated seven years ago is now an aspiring artist, and he gave my girlfriend one of his paintings. It's abstract, splashy and horrible. I find it disrespectful of him to give it to her (because she's in a relationship). She said he does lots of paintings, sells almost none, and gives them as gifts to all of his friends. I asked her to throw it away, but she said that would be "too mean" and shoved it under the bed. Am I being overly jealous, or is it wrong to accept gifts from exes? » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of August 16, 2017

Congratulations! I expect that during the next three weeks, you will be immune to what psychoanalyst Joan Chodorow calls "the void of sadness, the abyss of fear, the chaos of anger, and the alienation of contempt and shame." I realize that what I just said might sound like an exaggeration. Aren't all of us subject to regular encounters with those states? How could you possibly go so long without brushing up against them? I stand by my prediction, and push even further. For at least the next three weeks, I suspect you will also be available for an inordinate amount of what Chodorow calls "the light of focused insight" and "the playful, blissful, all-embracing experience of joy." » Read More

San Jose Jazz Clears Path to Music for City's At-Risk Youth

Every time the San Jose Jazz Summer Fest comes around, not enough emphasis is placed on the educational arm of the San Jose Jazz operation. To focus on just one example, Progressions is an intensive program helping low-income, at-risk youth develop their musical talents, a process inseparable from learning teamwork, social skills and critical thinking. The goal is to keep elementary-age kids out of gangs, in school and locked in a groove toward a creative life, so much so that the program is partly sponsored by the Mayor's Gang Prevention Task Force. Progressions started in the spring of 2011 at Santee Elementary, which is part of the Franklin-McKinley School District. During its first year, the program taught kindergarten through third » Read More

Advice Goddess: How Do You Weed Out Criminals When Online Dating?

It's good for a man to have goals, though ideally not one that involves growing a fern out of your comforter. As you appear to understand, the problem isn't ill will; it's "I, Robot." The first time your husband wondered "Where do I put this wet towel?"-perhaps at age 10-his brain said, "Easy peasy...just drop it right there on the bed." Sadly, it seems his superhero bedspread didn't pipe up: "Superman's got a ton to do today, and flying your wet towel over to the hamper is not on his agenda." Our brain is an efficiency expert. Figuring things out the first time around (a la "what should I do with this towel?") takes a bunch of energy. But, as neuroscientist Donald Hebb pointed out (in somewhat more neuroscientific terms), as you do an » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of August 9, 2017

In my astrological opinion, your life in the coming days should draw inspiration from the ancient Roman festival of Saturnalia, a six-day bout of revelry that encouraged everyone to indulge in pleasure, speak freely, and give gifts. Your imminent future could (and I believe should) also have resemblances to the yearly Doo Dah Parade in Pasadena, which features a farcical cavalcade of lunatics, like the Shopping Cart Drill Team, The Radioactive Chicken Heads, the Army of Toy Soldiers, and the Men of Leisure Synchronized Nap Team. In other words, Aries, it's an excellent time to set aside your dignity and put an emphasis on having uninhibited fun; to amuse yourself to the max as you experiment on the frontiers of self-expression; to be the » Read More

Cafe Stritch's Rahsaanathon Vibrates with Positivity in Fifth Year

Every year that Cafe Stritch pays tribute to its patron saint, Rahsaan Roland Kirk (1935-1977), bright moments appear on multiple levels. Spacetime continuum-shattering vibes have already surfaced in this, the fifth year of Rahsaanathon, via the presence of Todd Barkan, proprietor of the legendary jazz club Keystone Korner in San Francisco. Barkan toured with Kirk multiple times and showed up a month ago at Stritch, ratcheting up the anticipation for this year's festivities. Kirk's influence is multidimensional. He lost his sight at an early age, but he still played three saxophones at once, including a straight alto that gave Cafe Stritch its name. His music and positive, uplifting attitude left a long-term impact on thousands of » Read More

Advice Goddess: How Do You Weed Out Criminals When Online Dating?

There's that very attractive man you see on a dating site who spends "a lot of time abroad," as one must when primarily employed as a drug mule. These dating sites that do criminal background checks probably seem like a wise choice. And they do offer their members something extra: a false sense of security. First, as one of the sites with "extensive background checks" admits: "Some people do manage to slip through the cracks. When in doubt, report it!" Charming. Kind of like telling bank customers, "If you notice armed robbers in the bank, feel free to tackle them while yelling, 'citizen's arrest!'"Of course safety is a primary concern, but ponder this: Your friends don't background-check their party guests. » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of August 2, 2017

I hope you're making wise use of the surging fertility that has been coursing through you. Maybe you've been reinventing a long-term relationship that needed creative tinkering. Perhaps you have been hammering together an innovative business deal or generating new material for your artistic practice. It's possible you have discovered how to express feelings and ideas that have been half-mute or inaccessible for a long time. If for some weird reason you are not yet having experiences like these, get to work! There's still time to tap into the fecundity. » Read More

Netflix Doc Explores Valley's Role in Assault on the Free Press

It's not easy to watch Hulk Hogan's mighty heart break. Last summer, there he sat in a Florida courtroom, wearing a black bandanna of mourning, chewing on his biker mustache as he tried to rehabilitate his reputation in court. The trouble began in 2012, when the celebrity gossip website Gawker published a cuck-video of Hogan having sex with his BFF's wife, Ms. Heather Clem. The BFF-Todd Clem, a.k.a. shock-radio personality Bubba The Love Sponge-covertly ran the camera, and Hogan claimed in court that he knew nothing about the filming; Todd Clem took the Fifth. The story gained extra piquancy because Hogan was the best man at Mr. The Love Sponge's wedding. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his wife for his friends. » Read More

A Visit to Leonard Cohen's Unmarked Grave

The Canadian poet and songwriter Leonard Cohen, the romantic sharp-dressed articulator of darkness, is buried in an unmarked grave in his hometown of Montreal, Quebec. After a career spanning more than half a century, in which his songs, poetry and travels took him to Greece, Cuba, Nashville and a Zen monastery, Leonard finally passed away last November at the age of 82. He had just released his final album, You Want It Darker, in which he appears to have known he was dying. Leonard and his home turf of Quebec, la belle province, have a long history in my writings for this newspaper, so I had to visit his grave when returning to Montreal last week. The resulting sequence of events was mind-blowing. » Read More

Advice Goddess: Old Flame Needs to Cool It

As a means of communication, hinting to a man is like having a heartfelt conversation with your salad. This isn't to say men are dumb. They just aren't emotional cryptographers. Social psychologist Judith A. Hall finds that women are generally far better at spotting and interpreting nonverbal messages (from, say, facial expressions and body language, including that female specialty, the pout). Women tend to use their own ability for decoding unspoken stuff as the standard for what they expect from men. So, for example, the longer a man takes to notice that his girlfriend is pouting (perhaps about what was initially some minor to-do) the darker things get-with hate glares and maybe some cabinet-slamming...and then, the grand finale: "Hey, » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of July 26, 2017

Are you feeling as daring about romance as I suspect? If so, I've composed a provocative note for you to give to anyone you have good reason to believe will be glad to receive it. Feel free to copy it word-for-word or edit it to suit your needs. Here it is: "I want to be your open-hearted explorer. Want to be mine? We can be in foolishly cool drooling devotion to each other's mighty love power. We can be in elegant solid-gold allegiance to each other's genius. Wouldn't it be fun to see how much liberation we can whip up together? We can play off our mutual respect as we banish the fearful shticks in our bags of tricks. We can inspire each other to reach unexpected heights of brazen intelligence." » Read More

Silicon Valley Beer Week 2017

Heinz Jones enjoys the simple things in life, or so it would seem. Maybe it's his red, foot-long beard. One gets the impression the former techie has found the keys to eternal contentment. And yet, as he discusses the genesis of Forager Tasting Room + Eatery, his eyes light up with a glint of ambition. He isn't so content after all. Forager is on a mission to revolutionize the local culinary and sips scene. Compared to other major metropolitan areas like Portland, Seattle and San Diego, San Jose and surrounding cities have relatively few options to find a locally brewed beer. Despite the fact that over a million people live here, San Jose is home to less than 10 of the 120 plus breweries in the Bay Area. And people are thirsty. » Read More

'The Black Prince' and the Last Sikh King

You don't have to be a forcibly exiled maharajah longing for his original country to identify with The Black Prince, a vivid historical film opening this weekend. Written and directed by Kavi Raz and based on the true story of Maharajah Duleep Singh, the last king of Punjab before it was annexed by the British Empire, The Black Prince illuminates a tragic tale often hidden from the mainstream histories of South Asia. In 1843, at the age of 5, Duleep Singh ascended to the throne of Punjab, a.k.a. the Sikh Empire, and even survived an attempt on his life. Over the next few years, the British began to set their sights on Punjab, the last remaining piece of Northern India not under their subjugation. » Read More

Advice Goddess: Will the algorithm find me love?

Most people will tell you they want to be accepted for who they really are-yet those doing online dating rarely post profiles with stuff like "I like long walks on the beach, fine dining, and obscenely large breasts." In light of this, sites using these compatibility "algorithms" would seem to have some added value. However, according to a massive online dating analysis by social psychologist Eli Finkel and his colleagues, this algorithm stuff mainly seems to be a "science!"-flavored marketing ploy. The researchers explain that it's "virtually impossible" for sites to do what they promise with these algorithms: "match people who are uniquely suited to one another" and who are likely to have a "satisfying and lasting long-term relationship" » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of July 19, 2017

It's a favorable time to strengthen your fundamentals and stabilize your foundation. I invite you to devote your finest intelligence and grittiest determination to this project. How? Draw deeply from your roots. Tap into the mother lode of inspiration that never fails you. Nurture the web of life that nurtures you. The cosmos will offer you lots of help and inspiration whenever you attend to these practical and sacred matters. Best-case scenario: You will bolster your personal power for many months to come. » Read More

Nathan Hill, author of 'The Nix,' Talks Writing in the Age of Trump

It's been building a while, the sense that the novel, far from being exiled indefinitely from the hurly-burly of relevance, was tacking back into the mix, recovered from the fashion consciousness of campus influence and other existential threats, ready to stand and be counted. Now, as we peer through the lurid gloom of life in the Trump era, it's clear that journalists and nonfiction writers, chained to the ascendancy of "facts" in an era when fewer and fewer of us really believe in them anymore, cannot compete with the power of a go-for-broke novelist with a light touch, an ear for comedy and human foible, and the sheer stamina and grit to cobble together a great yarn over years of effort. This is the era of writers like Nathan Hill, » Read More

East Side Art Project Celebrates Spirit of Mayfair Neighborhood

The kids are coming together out of local pride to make art and beautify the streets. Thanks to the School of Arts and Culture at Mexican Heritage Plaza and Somos Mayfair, a local community booster organization, the idea began when locals pounded the pavement to identify priorities in their neglected neighborhood. The need for public art, community beautification and the expression of identity became immediate concerns. All three of those key points are now coming to life through Voices of the Mayfair, a project in which the prototype signage might someday appear on the streets. Featuring bright, colorful imagery with personal statements or sayings painted by the artists, the vertical signs function as tools of personal empowerment. » Read More

Advice Goddess: Why Online Dating Works for Some People?

Annoyingly, though most of us have a sense of what context is, nobody's done a very good job of defining it. Not in the dictionary or in Researchville, where I found a herd of dueling definitions, all so unhelpfully worded that they seem to be in secret code. So here's my definition: Context is a combo platter of the particular situation at hand-like pro basketball, online dating, being a bad dancer, or being sexually attracted to woodchucks. Plus, the details relevant to it that affect how you understand or experience the situation. In the context of online dating, the relevant details include age, sex, the quality of the competition, and one's desired situation, as in: Do you just want casual sex, or are you holding out for something a » Read More

Free Will Astrology: Week of July 12, 2017

It's not your birthday, but I feel like you need to get presents. The astrological omens agree with me. In fact, they suggest you should show people this horoscope to motivate them to do the right thing and shower you with practical blessings. And why exactly do you need these rewards? Here's one reason: Now is a pivotal moment in the development of your own ability to give the unique gifts you have to give. If you receive tangible demonstrations that your contributions are appreciated, you'll be better able to rise to the next level of your generosity. » Read More